Thursday, January 8, 2009

Is Your Opinion Really Humble?

No, or you wouldn't be sharing it.

That's the answer in a nutshell.

I love reading comments on public websites where the response starts or ends with the phrase, "In my humble opinion" precisely because that comment will typically go on to be one that is very judgmental or highly critical or downright nasty.

In the South, we have a version of this, "Bless her (or his) heart." Which as long as you say that in a cheery tone, you can proceed to say whatever negative or ugly or offensive thing you would like about the person.

We put these types of qualifiers on our speech to let the listener, or reader, know that, hey I am a REALLY nice person but now I am going to say something that is going to be hurtful or offensive in some way.

There is a long standing joke at my work that we would much rather be cussed out by a customer and get it over with than be politely torn to sheds with a pretty accent.

If you have an opinion worth sharing about anything, first off, you should NEVER apologize and secondly, say it in a mature manner that does not require qualifiers.

It's okay to disagree with someone but you should be able to use your words not hide behind them.

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